We always cooked our meals from scratch. There were no mixes in our house. I remember being a mom of two toddlers buying groceries. An aquaintence was in line behind me. She commented that I must be a good mom because I had the good diapers in my cart. I looked at my cart and then at hers. She had prepackaged lasagna and processed food in her cart. Yes, I had the good diapers (the cheap ones didn't fit my child!) but I had ingredients in my cart, real food. I smiled and nodded. But I thought, if I am a good mom it isn't because I bought more expensive diapers, it is because I took care of my children.
Make friends of every age. She had Mary Thornton Yarborough and I have Nancy Griffin.
Vote! Write letters to the people elected, they should be supporting you. And even if we don't agree on everything, it doesn't mean we can't be friends.
Drink good beer and good wine. Make good food. Celebrate! Don't put the dish you cooked in on the table. Sit down together and eat. Everyone helps clean up. Everyone needs to know how to cook. (During the pandemic I taught my kids to make a rue.) Say, 'Thank you.'
And when you need to cry, call your mom. Sometimes she listens, sometimes she sorts it out. Sometimes she makes me mad about something else and I move on. But I always know that it is safe to cry with my mom.
Hugs are good, phone calls are great. A handwritten card for no reason is icing on the cake. Work hard and leave things better than you found them. Do more than you are asked but learn to draw boundries.
She also believes there was more to the life of a woman than being a mother. She believes that shouldn't be your only identity. And while it isn't my only identity, it is my favorite job.
Thank you Mom.